Non offending partner????

Non offending partner?

Is this what I am, what I’ve become? The short answer is No!  What a derogatory term in a time of trauma, uncertainty and sadness.

Is this term used for partners of all crimes; if my husband had shop lifted; been fraudulent, assaulted someone or even committed murder would I be referred to in this way?  Again; the short answer is No!  So why is it ok in these circumstances myself and the community around me ask ourselves?

For me, and many others it’s just another label for ‘professionals’ out there to use and to describe us, and why? because they can’t deal with, or try to understand our situation. There are many other terms I’d like to fight against  to be honest; I also hate ‘only child’ and ‘single parent’.

It’s similar to a recent post on the forum ‘Words’ where many of these are thrown around and used all the time to help ‘professionals’ complete their write ups in an easy way that they think will work in their favour as they tend to give a negative vibe rather being factual. We are human beings with feelings and many life stories and this situation does not define us. This term removes any of that and just puts us in a box, we are no longer an individual.

We all have names; so why not use them?  Is it to make us look worse, in my opinion absolutely yes!   And NOP is even worse!  We can fight for this term to not be used and will continue to do so but what I would advise for anyone that is referred to in this way in the meantime is - you’re absolutely well within your rights to ask for it to be removed in any report or written information and to be replaced to by your name xx